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Many famous people have attended private schools. Here is a sampling of schools and the famous folk who graced their hallowed halls.

• Ashley Hall, Charleston, SC: Alexandra Ripley, Barbara Bush, Madeleine L'Engle
• Baylor School, Chattanooga, TN: Arthur Golden
• The Brooks School, North Andover, MA: Steve Forbes
• Canisius High School, Buffalo, NY: Tim Russert
• Cardinal Hayes High School, New York, NY: George Carlin
• Choate-Rosemary Hall, Wallingford, CT: Glenn Close, Ivanka Trump, Jamie Lee Curtis, Jodie Foster, John Dos Passos, John Fitzgerald Kennedy, Michael Douglas
• Cushing Academy, Ashburnham, MA: Bette Davis
• The Dwight School, New York, NY: Paris Hilton
• Emma Willard School, Troy, NY: Jane Fonda
• Episcopal High School, Alexandria, VA: John McCain
• Eton College, Berkshire, England: Prince Harry, Prince William
• The Fieldston School, New York, NY: Andrew Litton
• Gulliver Preparatory, Miami, FL: Enrique Iglesias, George Prescott Bush

• Harding Academy, Nashville, TN: Reese Witherspoon
• Harvard-Westlake School, Los Angeles, CA: Tori Spelling
• The Hill School, Pottstown, PA: Oliver Stone
• The Hotchkiss School, Lakeville, CT: Archibald MacLeish
• Horace Mann School, New York, NY: Eliot Spitzer
• Kent Denver School, Englewood, CO: Madeline Albright
• Kent School, Kent, CT: Ted Danson
• Lakeside School, Seattle, WA: Bill Gates
• The Madeira School, Mclean, VA: Stockard Channing
• McCallie School, Chatanooga, TN: Ted Turner
• Mercersburg Academy, Mercersburg, PA: James Stewart
• Milton Academy, Milton, MA: Edward Kennedy
• Miss Porter's School, Farmington, CT: Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis
• Northfield Mt. Hermon School, Northfield, MA: Natalie Cole, Uma Thurman
• Phillips Academy, Andover, MA: George Herbert Walker Bush, George

A Teacher's Influence

If there is one thing that I have learned over many years of teaching, it is that our students learn by example.

• They learn not only the lessons that we try to teach them but also lessons that, by their very nature, are perhaps more subtle and implied.
• These are the lessons that children often learn by osmosis or example.

I also know that the lessons learned and the impressions made when a child is young last a lifetime.

• This is one of the most significant responsibilities that we teachers and parents have as adults.
• Young minds process information quite differently than adult minds do.
• We have to be aware of that constantly. That doesn't mean that we have to dumb down information and concepts.
• It just means that we can assume nothing when it comes to how a child's mind will process the information it receives.

The following is pure fiction, of course, but it makes one wonder how things might have turned out if some of these teachers had tried a different approach. Perhaps if they had framed their arguments differently or taken the time to ensure that their students understood what was taught, there might have been different results.

40 a.d.

Setting: High on one of the seven hills of Rome

Aurelius Flagellus Horribilis looked up from his table. The three discipuli in his charge were supposed to be working on their times tables.

The answer to that questions hangs on whether you look at statistics or community. Having 10% of your student population from a certain ethnic group does not necessarily mean a diverse school community. Diversity is more than numbers and statistics. Diversity is an attitude.

Teaching children to be tolerant and accepting of people and views which are different from their own is a huge task. It requires teamwork. Parents, administration and teachers set the tone. Nothing will be accomplished without the cooperation of these three groups.

Teaching children to be tolerant means getting involved and setting the right kind of example. Getting involved is not the same as sitting on the sidelines and observing what children are saying and doing. Getting involved means addressing issues of tolerance and diversity in the home and in the classroom.

The Past

Decades ago private schools were infamous for being elitist and exclusive. If you were Jewish or if your skin color was something other than white, you probably were not going to be admitted to a private school if you even dared to apply. Fortunately that has changed. Private schools have come to understand their leadership role in creating an inclusive, accepting community of students, teachers, staff and parents. Now the push is on to heighten that understanding of others and how they live with many fine initiatives such as The Institute for Student Leaders sponsored by NAIS. Private schools are proud of their diversity which truly is fact and not

Perhaps you have come to this site because you have just found out that your son has dyslexia. It is a scary feeling on many levels when you find out something like that. I know. When we were living in Nassau, Bahamas, we discovered that our eldest son read on a second grade level even though he was in 7th grade. The lad had been socially promoted with one of his previous teachers ever flagging his learning disability. (Our adopted son had only come to live with us at age 12, so we had no idea that he even had a learning disability.) Our first reaction was to get him into one of the private day schools. However, since he could not read, we were referred to a special needs school run by a caring, brilliant, patient person by the name of Gail Wisdom. She spent a lot of 1 on 1 time with her handful of students. In a matter of months and with much encouragement at home, our son was reading at his grade level.

We had very few options in the Bahamas back then. But you will discover that you have plenty of education options. Perhaps you are reading this article because you have decided that your child needs the best teachers available to help her with her learning differences. She is very bright and highly motivated. That's not the issue. She just learns differently. Or maybe your child has ADHD (Attention Deficit